The Balancing Act

Acts 18:1-4

1 After these things he left Athens and went to Corinth. 2 And he found a Jew named Aquila, a native of Pontus, having recently come from Italy with his wife Priscilla, because Claudius had commanded all the Jews to leave Rome. He came to them, 3 and because he was of the same trade, he stayed with them and they were working, for by trade they were tent-makers. 4 And he was reasoning in the synagogue every Sabbath and trying to persuade Jews and Greeks.

The big talk in Midian these days is about "work/life balance." Companies have started championing the cause, organizing several benefits to fit different lifestyles and giving discounts for healthy living. Some of this is motivated by retention, some is motivated by philosophy, a lot of it is motivated by health costs.

In a recent issue of Businessweek, there is an article about a company that has decided to fire workers who continue to smoke tobacco. According to the story, the company management and workers sat down to discuss rising health costs and determined that smokers were driving costs up disproportionately. The decision was made to compel all workers to stop smoking.

It has gotten me thinking about what the proper balance is between "work" and "life"...and why, in that ratio, we notice a separation at all. Is work not a part of our lives? We don't talk about TV/life balance, dinner/life balance, etc....

Biblically, work/life balance gets a pretty steady treatment in the New Testament...only work as much as you need to, in order to support your family and ministry. Paul is a good example of this; he continues to fund his ministry and personal needs through his particular trade (tent-making). The interesting aspect of the Acts passage above is that it paints Paul as a sort of "weekend Bible warrior," working during the week and then spending the weekend at the synagogue, trying to convert people to Christianity.

In America, more than Europe or most other places, there is a strong desire to find "meaning" in our employment. As I have talked with many friends and members of congregations, there are four main reasons people leave jobs: 1) money, 2) horrible boss, 3) lack of recognition, and 4) the job lacked importance or meaning. People often want to find a "vocation," which, in this case, I use to describe a life passion that you've figured out how to get paid for.

Some do find vocations....bully for them...most have a job that pays for financial responsibilities and the things that they enjoy. Some can never come to grips with this situation; they are determined to find a hidden batch of approval and/or meaning in their occupations; they climb the corporate ladder and/or spend long hours doing what they can to "get ahead." There have been a number of books written about this misappropriation of self-worth...this won't be one of them.

My personal interest is in settling into a work/life balance in which I work enough to do my part in an honest and respectable fashion; but, moves away from allowing career goals, successes, and failures to fashion my personal identity. If we are not careful, this mad rush for career affirmation can blind us to the affirmation that we really need. Henry Nouwen, the renowned spiritualist and Catholic priest, fought against this urge, himself, saying "But you have to pray. You have to listen to the voice who calls you the beloved, because otherwise you will run around begging for affirmation, for praise, for success. And then you're not free."

I don't want the first line in my obituary to be, "He was a legend in the Industry;" not that that would be a horrible statement; but, I don't think the return is worth the investment. I would prefer to be seen as a good colleague who was competent and did his part..... and I would like to see that comment at the bottom of my obituary, not at the top.

Most Christians don't even know that Paul was a tentmaker; yet, it is probably what he spent a majority of most of his weekdays doing. He was obviously good enough at it to keep earning a living; but, no one seems to greet Paul with statements like, "Hey, isn't that Paul, the King of Tents?"

Paul would have been passed over for promotion if he was working at a corporation. Paul would be the guy who "put in his 15; but didn't show up for many happy hours." Paul just isn't the guy you can count on for going "above and beyond." Paul always got "target achievment."

Work/life balance is a tricky issue in our Midian culture...it isn't just a battle for time, it's a battle for identity. We have to take a serious look at the affirmations we crave most; it tells us a lot about who we are.